Would you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree?
The imagery of the question is enough to laugh. Yet how much have you tried to be someone that you’re not? How much has society taught us to compare and be like others or better? And what if that was the most unkind thing we can do to each other? Albert Einstein wisely said: Everybody is a genius. If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid”.
When I was a kid, I knew I was different and to be honest, I did not like it at all. I called myself the black sheep of the family, and at school I was always laughed at, alone and desperately trying to either fit in, or be invisible. That led to years of making myself wrong, trying to be serious and responsible, to get me and life right and failing miserably at it. So what was different about me? Not sure really. I was not logical, I was sensitive, I did not care about sports or analysis and nor about everything that people said was so important. Oh, and I came out as gay which was not cool at the time, and later went on to adopt 2 boys and become a single dad.
We then try to adapt and often take on what others expect from us, be it with jobs or family and construct the life we think we should have, thinking that we can do it our way, but deep down it feels off, and we are bored. I had anxiety and panic attacks for 35 years, isolated myself and felt like a freak. I tried Vipassana, Japanese Buddhism, Reiki, counselling, medication, hypnotherapy, and nothing seemed to help much. I was the problem and I was trying to fix me. Then I gave up on me, and a friend mentioned about Access. “Oh, I don’t do that stuff anymore” I said. And she did not push. A year later she offered again to teach me the Bars, I hesitated but said yes.
Not much changed and I did not feel different (hopes down again). But something subtle did shift. Three months later when I was so depressed, a small voice said “enough”. I remember that one thing they say in Access is that most of your thoughts and emotions are not yours. You may be an empath who picks up on what others think and feel, then take it on to understand it (unconsciously) and make it yours. It may have worked for you at some point in the past, but does it work for you now? I started to use the tools of Access, and started repeating in my head “who does this belong to? Return to sender with consciousness” sure that I was in denial and that this was silly. But within a week, everything changed and I was happy and light. I never looked back again and embarked on a journey of curiosity and self-discovery, taking classes that blew my mind and expanded my world so completely.
There are no answers, there is nothing to fix nor anything wrong with you or me. The stories in my head are just lies, and it is ok to let them go with a Bars session and other tools. That creates more space in my head for knowing and choosing what works for me. Today I am an Access Certified Facilitator and I love facilitating classes and people. My whole world shifts and changes every time. So, what else is possible and how does it get any better than this? These 2 questions alone are like taking a step forward and inviting change into our lives. We tend to focus so much on the problems and to convince ourselves that things are wrong. Your thoughts create your reality, so shifting that can start to bring big changes.
Access originated in the USA with the founder Gary Douglas and has expanded and exploded all over the world especially in recent years. Dr. Dain Heer, co-founder, and Gary teach classes all over the world. I am an Access Consciousness Certified Facilitator based in Montreal, and I often hold intro sessions (see Meet-up group Heal your Body and Mind) on a variety of topics, and I teach classes for Access Bars, Body Process, Energetic Facelift and Foundation, among others. I hope to have the honor of meeting you, and for our lives to connect and change.